The worst time of year for many managing holiday depression
BAKERSFIELD, Calif. (KBAK/KBFX) —
The holidays are happy days for many, but for others it's the saddest time of year.
Depression, death, loss of loved ones, and suicide aren't usually topics for the Christmas dinner table, but this year you might want to just be open and honest and have those talks.
"The holidays are hard for people. And we're supposed to put on a happy face, 'Life is great,’" Ellen Eggert, supervisor of the Kern County Crisis Hotline, said. "And for a lot of people it isn't."
For those suffering a loss, the holiday season is a harsh reminder.
According to Eggert some people haven't celebrated Christmas in years, because it's just too tough to do without that special someone.
For those people, she suggests changing up you holiday traditions.
"Don't do what you use to do. If you had a big celebration, go to someone else's house. Or adopt a family," Eggert said. "Do something that is out of the ordinary for your family."
On the flip side, Eggert says if you want to remember those people that's okay, and there's nothing wrong with setting an extra plate at the table.
What's most important is doing what's best for you. It's easy to get caught up in caring about everyone else this time of year and stressing over the perfect gift and perfect meal. But the most important thing is to make sure you are okay.
Also, Eggert said it's okay to make sure others are doing okay too. Especially those coming home from college.
This time of year, suicides do go up for that age group. Many are struggling in school and don't know how to tell you.
So, Eggert suggests you make it so they feel comfortable being open with you. It could save their life.